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Mother Board

By Rebeccah Bennett | April 15, 2018

So here’s a little secret that only a handful of my friends know.  I have a mother board.  Now, I’m not referring to the central processing unit of a computer.  My mother board is a power circle of great black women who through wit, will and wisdom not only lived life on their terms, but also challenged the bigoted terms of America’s social contract.  And, since this is Women’s History Month, I thought it fitting to share this resource with others who might need a little help managing the challenges of modern life. The idea for my mother board came...

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Feed Your Life

By Rebeccah Bennett | April 1, 2018

Three months before I married, my mother called together 40 of the wisest women we know to help me prepare for my impending nuptials.  We spent a weekend in the Ozarks talking about everything – love, sex, commitment, change, intimacy, betrayal, forgiveness, children…  The depth and breadth of our discussions were amazing, but the one that stood out for me the most was our conversation about magic versus management.  My sister sages counseled that life’s rigors could overwhelm my new love and crowd out the delight that had brought my fiancé and I together.   At the time, I didn’t really...

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Pay Attention

By Rebeccah Bennett | March 18, 2018

I just gave myself the best gift.  I packed my hiking boots and deep longings for an eight-day retreat on beautiful Bowen Island in Canada’s British Columbia.  In the island’s luscious rain forest, I met up with a band of daring souls who like me yearn to fully know and grow themselves.  Together, we explored big questions like, “What wants to happen in our lives?” and “What aspects of ourselves are really starving for our attention and affection?” We also spent an entire day examining our immunity to change – the psychological defenses that often keep us from trying out...

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Gettin’ Satisfaction

By Rebeccah Bennett | March 4, 2018

In my coaching practice, I routinely encounter people who in the words of Mick Jagger “can’t get no satisfaction.” The trouble is, that in several aspects of my life, I can relate. It isn’t that we’re malcontents with unrealistic expectations of life. It’s that we’re discerning individuals who know the difference between primary and secondary satisfactions. The former, which most of us yearn for, are often hard to come by in our hyper busy culture of instant gratification and surface connections. And the latter are merely surrogates that take the sting out of feeling empty. Let’s explore the distinctions further....

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What Shape Is Your Life In?

By Rebeccah Bennett | February 18, 2018

For a while now I’ve felt out of shape – and I’m not referring to the 50 extra pounds that I picked up in the course of having two babies! What I’m talking about are the ways that my life and sense of self have expanded and contracted in response to my experiences. In the last 10 years, I met and married the love of my life and had two wonderful children who have taught me the meaning of real love and sacrifice. Caring for my family has opened wide my heart, humbled my ego, challenged my commitments, tested my...

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False Selves: The Masks We Wear

By Rebeccah Bennett | February 4, 2018

We wear the mask that grins and lies, It hides our cheeks and shades our eyes, This debt we pay to human guile’ With torn and bleeding hearts we smile… One of my favorite poems by Paul Laurence Dunbar, “We Wear The Mask,” captures the reality of many black folks and countless people around the world. Who among us has not had cause to wear a mask – to at some point conceal our thoughts, mute our voices or temper our actions? While it’s appropriate for us to be sensitive to our environment, we suffer when we repeatedly deny our...

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When Times Get Tough, Love

By Rebeccah Bennett | January 21, 2018

Lots of us have gone through hardship and heartache only to find that at the end of our difficulties laid well, more difficulties. Life has a way of testing us, pushing us beyond the limits of what we think we can bear.  And yet, to hear the old wise ones tell it, “trouble don’t last always and joy comes in the morning.” How could our elders and enslaved forbearers declare such a remarkable truth whilst living through tragedies that were generational in scope and scale? One answer is that many believed that despite life’s appearances, LOVE ALWAYS WINS (LAW).  Now...

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Touching Magic

By Rebeccah Bennett | January 7, 2018

Let’s talk magic. Now before you realists roll your eyes and stop reading, I should be clear that I don’t mean Harry Potter wizardry or Marvel Comic blockbusters. What I’m referring to is a type of lush living that delights our senses and adds dimension to our experiences. This magic is rare not because it is mythical, but because it is unpracticed and flies in the face of what we’ve been told about “how life really works.” Yet, if we were to temporarily suspend our disbelief, we’d see that magic is both within and around us, whispering to us through...

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