Posts by Rebeccah Bennett

Three months before I married, my mother called together 40 of the wisest women we know to help me prepare for my impending nuptials.  We spent a weekend in the Ozarks talking about everything – love, sex, commitment, change, intimacy, betrayal, forgiveness, children…  The depth and breadth of our discussions were amazing, but the one…

I just gave myself the best gift.  I packed my hiking boots and deep longings for an eight-day retreat on beautiful Bowen Island in Canada’s British Columbia.  In the island’s luscious rain forest, I met up with a band of daring souls who like me yearn to fully know and grow themselves.  Together, we explored…

In my coaching practice, I routinely encounter people who in the words of Mick Jagger “can’t get no satisfaction.” The trouble is, that in several aspects of my life, I can relate. It isn’t that we’re malcontents with unrealistic expectations of life. It’s that we’re discerning individuals who know the difference between primary and secondary…

For a while now I’ve felt out of shape – and I’m not referring to the 50 extra pounds that I picked up in the course of having two babies! What I’m talking about are the ways that my life and sense of self have expanded and contracted in response to my experiences. In the…

We wear the mask that grins and lies, It hides our cheeks and shades our eyes, This debt we pay to human guile’ With torn and bleeding hearts we smile… One of my favorite poems by Paul Laurence Dunbar, “We Wear The Mask,” captures the reality of many black folks and countless people around the…

Lots of us have gone through hardship and heartache only to find that at the end of our difficulties laid well, more difficulties. Life has a way of testing us, pushing us beyond the limits of what we think we can bear.  And yet, to hear the old wise ones tell it, “trouble don’t last…

Let’s talk magic. Now before you realists roll your eyes and stop reading, I should be clear that I don’t mean Harry Potter wizardry or Marvel Comic blockbusters. What I’m referring to is a type of lush living that delights our senses and adds dimension to our experiences. This magic is rare not because it…